Here's one I came across, thought others might enjoy this sappy pun:
Lost on a rainy night, a nun stumbles across a monastery and requests shelter there. Fortunately, she's just in time for dinner and was treated to the best fish and chips she's ever had.
After dinner, she goes into the kitchen to thank the chefs. She is met by two brothers, "Hello, I'm Brother Michael, and this is Brother Charles."
"I'm very pleased to meet you. I just wanted to thank you for a wonderful dinner. The fish and chips were the best I've ever tasted. Out of curiosity, who cooked what?"
Brother Charles replied, "Well, I'm the fish friar."
She turns the other brother and says, "Then you must be...?"
"Yes, I'm the chip monk."
Go ahead and groan, but you know you wanna laugh!
Sunday, July 27, 2008
Tuesday, July 08, 2008
Extraordinary Wisdom for Everday Living - June 1, 2008
Hello my dear readers - the next five posts are from a Bible study series I wrote for The Baptist Standard onine edition for the month of June. Use them if you can!
STUDY THEME OUTLINE
The five Sundays of June, 2008 bring a great opportunity for your learners to grow in wisdom and strategy for living the Christian life well. By looking at five major portions of Proverbs, we will find Extraordinary Wisdom for Everyday Living. Here is how the lessons will break down for June:
Study Theme Structure:
Week of Lesson Title and Focal Passage
June 1 Your Ticket to Real Success
Proverbs 1:1-7; 2:4-8; 3:5-6,11-12
June 8 Three Rules for Working Smart
Proverbs 6:1-15
June 15 How to Storm-Proof Your Home
Proverbs 23:22–24:4
Revised 2/28/2007 June 22 Word Power Made Wise
Proverbs 17:27-28; 18:20-21; 25:11-12; 26:20-22,28
June 29 If Your Money Could Talk
Proverbs 3:9-10; 11:24-26; 13:11; 15:16-17; 16:11; 23:4-5
Study Theme Description:
Many people spend years getting an education and then learning a trade or becoming an expert in a particular field. Yet too often all those years of study do not prepare people for life itself. They know how to do things and solve problems, but they don’t know how to live wisely. In the Scriptures, the Lord has provided extraordinary wisdom so that people might know how to live successfully. These lessons are based on passages in the Book of Proverbs, a biblical book specifically written to teach wisdom, form character, and encourage an obedient relationship with the Lord.
The study theme focuses on selected biblical proverbs about characteristics of truly successful living, guidelines for conducting one’s work life, help for strengthening family life, benefits of using speech wisely, and principles for earning and using money well.
LESSON for JUNE 1, 2008
Study Theme: Extraordinary Wisdom for Everyday Living
Date: Week of June 1, 2008
Title: Your Ticket to Real Success
Adult Life Context:
Adults want to succeed in their lives. Just watch most of TV’s infomercials. They’re geared to show adults how they can succeed with little effort—in making a fortune in real estate, in getting physically fit, or in finding a perfect new love relationship. Many adults bounce from program to program and shell out bucket-loads of money in an attempt to discover their ticket to success. But are any of these programs about real success in life? As important as making money, pursuing good health, and finding romance may be to adults, the Scriptures point to something greater as the ticket to real success. They point out that God wants people to succeed in life by trusting in Him and living according to His ways.
Life Question:
How can I have real success in life?
Bible Passage(s):
Background Passage(s): Proverbs 1:1–3:35
Focal Passage(s): Proverbs 1:1-7; 2:4-8; 3:5-6,11-12
Sidebar: Word study on “Wisdom” (1:2,7; 2:6)
Biblical Truth:
The Lord wants people to succeed in living right, and He instructs those who know and trust Him in how they can do so.
Life Impact and Learning Goals:
This lesson is designed to help you exhibit godly wisdom in your everyday life by . . .
• agreeing that God wants you to succeed in living right; and
• adopting the Scriptures’ wise guidance for successful living.
General Instructions:
1. Assume Solomon’s authorship of the Focal Passages in this lesson.
2. A possible teaching-learning procedure for some adult life stage groups is to construct a personal vision statement for living successfully based on the principles they encounter in this lesson.
3.
Revised 2/28/2007The word success is mentioned specifically in Proverbs 2:7 (KJV, “sound wisdom”). Throughout the lesson, contrast the biblical view of success as right living to the worldly idea of success as mere self-fulfillment. Explain that “real success” in biblical terms involves fulfilling the purposes God has for His children.
Focal Passage Outline:
1. Learn from Scripture (Prov. 1:1-6)
Most of us get it backwards when it comes to the definition for success. For many success is about self-fulfillment, but real success in Biblical terms involves fulfilling the purposes that God has for us. That kind of success is more difficult to achieve, but it is possible! Success of the real kind can be found and experienced by applying principles of wisdom learned from scripture.
For this study we will focus on the wisdom literature attributed to Solomon, but likely gathered from many sources. This literature, called Proverbs makes up a body of ideas about how to live life as it was understood by the Hebrews. This collection of sayings and sage advice is God’s path to knowledge, wisdom, healthy relationships, and to a more satisfying life.
To get the most out this book, we need to explore it diligently. God’s wisdom in these holy verses is plain, straightforward, and understandable. But to make it work, you have to study it. Therefore, the first step to wisdom is to become willing to learn from the Scriptures and understand the Bible as authoritative and guiding in our lives.
Application Idea:
• By continuing to explore and apply diligently God’s wisdom in the Holy Scriptures, believers can increase in living rightly—and thus in living successfully. Share a plan for daily Bible reading with your learners. Some websites will email a daily Bible reading straight to your in-box. If your church provides daily devotional material, bring samples.
2. Revere the Lord (Prov. 1:7; 2:4-8)
Real success – in the Biblical sense – is based in living out God’s plan for our lives. Discovering and understanding that plan begins with reverence. Solomon taught that the way to wisdom began with this. The Psalms are full of supporting evidence with the view that the Lord is God and we are not. Thus, it is a matter of position, and more precisely, it is a matter of recognizing our position as subject of the heavenly King.
Proverbs 2 teaches that wisdom begins when a person acknowledges reverence for God. Once this proper positioning takes place then – and only then – can true wisdom to live successfully come into play. Various sports offer illustrations of this. A baseball batter cannot hit a pitched baseball until assuming the proper batting stance. A baseball fielder must in “baseball ready” position before the baseball is ever pitched if they hope to make a great catch. A tennis player cannot make an “ace” serve until the mechanics of the serve and timing are perfected. Both of these are based on the posture of the player, and this is especially so when it comes to receiving wisdom from God.
Application:
• We show that we treasure wisdom by diligently seeking to understand God and to follow God’s ways. But how does this look practically speaking? In other words, how can a Christian be “baseball ready” when it comes to living the faith? It begins with a position of humility that allows us to look in the mirror and say, “God is in charge here.” It continues with an attitude of dependence that says, “If I am to please God with my life today, I must choose to trust God for decisions and actions.” Ask your participants to assess their readiness for gaining wisdom. Ask them to assess their reverence for God.
3. Live by Faith (Prov. 3:5-6)
Living by faith is indeed a challenge. Solomon understood this when he suggested that we trust in God and relied on God’s guidance for insight and guidance. Living by faith means trusting God to take us beyond the limits of our own understanding into where God would have us go.
The challenge for us is trusting that God knows the ways to real success far better than we do ourselves. The great temptation is to think that we can figure it out on our own, or work hard enough. The reality is that we need a guide and that God can be that guide – if we will trust God and live by faith.
Living by faith necessarily includes lots of time spent learning God’s ways. Praying, studying Scripture, and fellowshipping with other believers is a great way to do this. Living by faith is difficult if not pursued with some discipline, as well as some sacrifice of “self” along the way. The good news is that the Lord wants to guide us in all our decisions – great or small – and help us to find the right pathway.
Application Idea:
• Recognizing the limitations of our understanding, we can succeed in living right by trusting in the Lord completely and following His guidance in all we do. A good illustration of this principle is that of a guide for hiking or fishing. When we trust someone experienced and follow them, we can be rewarded with incredible vistas and views we’d never find on our own. Or, in the case of a fishing guide, we’re able to catch fish better than if we tried based on our limited experiences. You might introduce this section of material by telling about a time you followed someone else’s experience or wisdom and reaped a benefit.
4. Appreciate God’s Correction (Prov. 3:11-12)
Solomon advised that the Lord’s instruction and loving correction are to be desired, not despised. But who among us has received discipline or correction and enjoyed it? It is difficult to hear things about our flaws that need improvement. It is embarrassing and sometimes damaging to adult egos to be reminded that we are not without a source of authority and correction – God the Father.
Mark Twain is often credited for this saying:
When I was 19 years old my father was the dumbest man on the earth. It’s amazing how much he learned by the time I turned 25.
We always appreciate the wisdom of God’s correcting love long after the affect is first felt. When a loving parent takes the time to discipline and confront a wayward child, in the long run that child knows that he or she is loved. When an unloving or lazy parent takes no time and fails to engage the child with corrective action, the child ultimately comes to understand that as a less loving parent. So it is with God!
Application Ideas:
• We can be sure when God corrects us through His Word or by some other means that His correction is proof He loves us and desires our success in life. Provide your participants with a personal story of a time when a parent corrected you and, although it was painful, you grew from the experience. Parents who are raising difficult children will be encouraged to be reminded that correction and guidance are good for the child, even though the child doesn’t like such treatment. You may want to give parents of young children a chance to discuss this together – understanding their children’s need for correction can help them understand their own need for correction from God.
STUDY THEME OUTLINE
The five Sundays of June, 2008 bring a great opportunity for your learners to grow in wisdom and strategy for living the Christian life well. By looking at five major portions of Proverbs, we will find Extraordinary Wisdom for Everyday Living. Here is how the lessons will break down for June:
Study Theme Structure:
Week of Lesson Title and Focal Passage
June 1 Your Ticket to Real Success
Proverbs 1:1-7; 2:4-8; 3:5-6,11-12
June 8 Three Rules for Working Smart
Proverbs 6:1-15
June 15 How to Storm-Proof Your Home
Proverbs 23:22–24:4
Revised 2/28/2007 June 22 Word Power Made Wise
Proverbs 17:27-28; 18:20-21; 25:11-12; 26:20-22,28
June 29 If Your Money Could Talk
Proverbs 3:9-10; 11:24-26; 13:11; 15:16-17; 16:11; 23:4-5
Study Theme Description:
Many people spend years getting an education and then learning a trade or becoming an expert in a particular field. Yet too often all those years of study do not prepare people for life itself. They know how to do things and solve problems, but they don’t know how to live wisely. In the Scriptures, the Lord has provided extraordinary wisdom so that people might know how to live successfully. These lessons are based on passages in the Book of Proverbs, a biblical book specifically written to teach wisdom, form character, and encourage an obedient relationship with the Lord.
The study theme focuses on selected biblical proverbs about characteristics of truly successful living, guidelines for conducting one’s work life, help for strengthening family life, benefits of using speech wisely, and principles for earning and using money well.
LESSON for JUNE 1, 2008
Study Theme: Extraordinary Wisdom for Everyday Living
Date: Week of June 1, 2008
Title: Your Ticket to Real Success
Adult Life Context:
Adults want to succeed in their lives. Just watch most of TV’s infomercials. They’re geared to show adults how they can succeed with little effort—in making a fortune in real estate, in getting physically fit, or in finding a perfect new love relationship. Many adults bounce from program to program and shell out bucket-loads of money in an attempt to discover their ticket to success. But are any of these programs about real success in life? As important as making money, pursuing good health, and finding romance may be to adults, the Scriptures point to something greater as the ticket to real success. They point out that God wants people to succeed in life by trusting in Him and living according to His ways.
Life Question:
How can I have real success in life?
Bible Passage(s):
Background Passage(s): Proverbs 1:1–3:35
Focal Passage(s): Proverbs 1:1-7; 2:4-8; 3:5-6,11-12
Sidebar: Word study on “Wisdom” (1:2,7; 2:6)
Biblical Truth:
The Lord wants people to succeed in living right, and He instructs those who know and trust Him in how they can do so.
Life Impact and Learning Goals:
This lesson is designed to help you exhibit godly wisdom in your everyday life by . . .
• agreeing that God wants you to succeed in living right; and
• adopting the Scriptures’ wise guidance for successful living.
General Instructions:
1. Assume Solomon’s authorship of the Focal Passages in this lesson.
2. A possible teaching-learning procedure for some adult life stage groups is to construct a personal vision statement for living successfully based on the principles they encounter in this lesson.
3.
Revised 2/28/2007The word success is mentioned specifically in Proverbs 2:7 (KJV, “sound wisdom”). Throughout the lesson, contrast the biblical view of success as right living to the worldly idea of success as mere self-fulfillment. Explain that “real success” in biblical terms involves fulfilling the purposes God has for His children.
Focal Passage Outline:
1. Learn from Scripture (Prov. 1:1-6)
Most of us get it backwards when it comes to the definition for success. For many success is about self-fulfillment, but real success in Biblical terms involves fulfilling the purposes that God has for us. That kind of success is more difficult to achieve, but it is possible! Success of the real kind can be found and experienced by applying principles of wisdom learned from scripture.
For this study we will focus on the wisdom literature attributed to Solomon, but likely gathered from many sources. This literature, called Proverbs makes up a body of ideas about how to live life as it was understood by the Hebrews. This collection of sayings and sage advice is God’s path to knowledge, wisdom, healthy relationships, and to a more satisfying life.
To get the most out this book, we need to explore it diligently. God’s wisdom in these holy verses is plain, straightforward, and understandable. But to make it work, you have to study it. Therefore, the first step to wisdom is to become willing to learn from the Scriptures and understand the Bible as authoritative and guiding in our lives.
Application Idea:
• By continuing to explore and apply diligently God’s wisdom in the Holy Scriptures, believers can increase in living rightly—and thus in living successfully. Share a plan for daily Bible reading with your learners. Some websites will email a daily Bible reading straight to your in-box. If your church provides daily devotional material, bring samples.
2. Revere the Lord (Prov. 1:7; 2:4-8)
Real success – in the Biblical sense – is based in living out God’s plan for our lives. Discovering and understanding that plan begins with reverence. Solomon taught that the way to wisdom began with this. The Psalms are full of supporting evidence with the view that the Lord is God and we are not. Thus, it is a matter of position, and more precisely, it is a matter of recognizing our position as subject of the heavenly King.
Proverbs 2 teaches that wisdom begins when a person acknowledges reverence for God. Once this proper positioning takes place then – and only then – can true wisdom to live successfully come into play. Various sports offer illustrations of this. A baseball batter cannot hit a pitched baseball until assuming the proper batting stance. A baseball fielder must in “baseball ready” position before the baseball is ever pitched if they hope to make a great catch. A tennis player cannot make an “ace” serve until the mechanics of the serve and timing are perfected. Both of these are based on the posture of the player, and this is especially so when it comes to receiving wisdom from God.
Application:
• We show that we treasure wisdom by diligently seeking to understand God and to follow God’s ways. But how does this look practically speaking? In other words, how can a Christian be “baseball ready” when it comes to living the faith? It begins with a position of humility that allows us to look in the mirror and say, “God is in charge here.” It continues with an attitude of dependence that says, “If I am to please God with my life today, I must choose to trust God for decisions and actions.” Ask your participants to assess their readiness for gaining wisdom. Ask them to assess their reverence for God.
3. Live by Faith (Prov. 3:5-6)
Living by faith is indeed a challenge. Solomon understood this when he suggested that we trust in God and relied on God’s guidance for insight and guidance. Living by faith means trusting God to take us beyond the limits of our own understanding into where God would have us go.
The challenge for us is trusting that God knows the ways to real success far better than we do ourselves. The great temptation is to think that we can figure it out on our own, or work hard enough. The reality is that we need a guide and that God can be that guide – if we will trust God and live by faith.
Living by faith necessarily includes lots of time spent learning God’s ways. Praying, studying Scripture, and fellowshipping with other believers is a great way to do this. Living by faith is difficult if not pursued with some discipline, as well as some sacrifice of “self” along the way. The good news is that the Lord wants to guide us in all our decisions – great or small – and help us to find the right pathway.
Application Idea:
• Recognizing the limitations of our understanding, we can succeed in living right by trusting in the Lord completely and following His guidance in all we do. A good illustration of this principle is that of a guide for hiking or fishing. When we trust someone experienced and follow them, we can be rewarded with incredible vistas and views we’d never find on our own. Or, in the case of a fishing guide, we’re able to catch fish better than if we tried based on our limited experiences. You might introduce this section of material by telling about a time you followed someone else’s experience or wisdom and reaped a benefit.
4. Appreciate God’s Correction (Prov. 3:11-12)
Solomon advised that the Lord’s instruction and loving correction are to be desired, not despised. But who among us has received discipline or correction and enjoyed it? It is difficult to hear things about our flaws that need improvement. It is embarrassing and sometimes damaging to adult egos to be reminded that we are not without a source of authority and correction – God the Father.
Mark Twain is often credited for this saying:
When I was 19 years old my father was the dumbest man on the earth. It’s amazing how much he learned by the time I turned 25.
We always appreciate the wisdom of God’s correcting love long after the affect is first felt. When a loving parent takes the time to discipline and confront a wayward child, in the long run that child knows that he or she is loved. When an unloving or lazy parent takes no time and fails to engage the child with corrective action, the child ultimately comes to understand that as a less loving parent. So it is with God!
Application Ideas:
• We can be sure when God corrects us through His Word or by some other means that His correction is proof He loves us and desires our success in life. Provide your participants with a personal story of a time when a parent corrected you and, although it was painful, you grew from the experience. Parents who are raising difficult children will be encouraged to be reminded that correction and guidance are good for the child, even though the child doesn’t like such treatment. You may want to give parents of young children a chance to discuss this together – understanding their children’s need for correction can help them understand their own need for correction from God.
Extraordinary Wisdom for Everday Living - June 8, 2008
LESSON OUTLINE
Study Theme: Extraordinary Wisdom for Everyday Living
Date: Week of June 8, 2008
Title: Three Rules for Working Smart – Proverbs 6.1-15
Our identity is defined by a wide range of sources, but most commonly by our vocation. What we “do” for a living is perhaps the greatest sources of self-esteem, feelings of accomplishment, and dignity. Work also provides purpose and meaning to life, helping people to sense their usefulness in life – and for the greater good of humankind. But work can also be a source of stress:
· As young people, we worry about what we’re going to do with our lives in the future.
· As middle-agers, we wonder “what am I going to do when I grow up?” and consider unrealized goals and dreams.
· Senior adults ponder retirement and what our purpose will be after our career.
Wherever your learners may be on the spectrum of their career/vocation, they will have some touch points in today’s lesson. Today’s passage from Proverbs will encourage your learners that God wants them to have a fulfilling work life and will provide them with a model to faithfully pursue pleasing God through their work. Use today’s study time to explore some of these principles given to help your learners have a better work life.
Today’s passage teaches general life principles rather than specific commands about work and work relationships. The ideas in today’s passage do apply to the question “Ho can I have a better work life?” Biblical wisdom teaches God’s people to be wary of foolish entanglements, to work diligently, and to avoid dealing wickedly with others.
Passage Outline:
1. Be Wary of Foolish Entanglements (Prov. 6:1-5)
While this passage does not provide exemption from making commitments to help the poor or support the church, this passage does caution against getting involved in shady business deals or foolish financial entanglements. The wise father is urging his son to free himself quickly and honestly through humility from agreements that put the son’s assets at risk.
This passage also speaks to the foolish entanglements that come from bad vocational decisions. Encourage your learners to consider this passage before accepting an offer from a potential employer. Challenge your learners to consider the ethical implications of their employment.
If your learners are already in an employment or business ownership position that compromises their values and beliefs as a Christian, offer prayer and counsel about how they might discern God’s leadership in making professional changes. These verses warn against putting business or financial well-being at risk to people or circumstances beyond your control.
Application Idea
This is a good passage to explore how bad/unwise debt such as credit cards can be a bad financial decision that gives away control of your learner’s finances. It is likely that 50% or more of your learners will have burdensome credit card debt, so this passage should be an encouragement to discharge that debt as quickly and honestly as possible. Offer a few resources that can offer positive support to new Christians who are dealing with this very real burden. Good Cents group study, Financial Peace University, and other such programs offer Christian concepts of money management that will help families struggling with debt.
2. Be Wise in Your Work Ethic (Prov. 6:6-11)
This passage warns slackers to adopt the ant’s diligent work habits lest they fall into poverty as a result of laziness. Not all who are unemployed are lazy. And not all who work hard are paid fairly. But diligence – or a lack thereof – is tied to poverty and want in many situations. The ant saves food in preparation for the coming winter, and by example teaches us that diligence in work now prepares for hard seasons of life to come.
Scripture also teaches the wisdom and command of God to rest from work regularly for renewal – physical, spiritual, and emotional – by way of Sabbath keeping. But rest is to be a part of the rhythm of life that includes regular work. Work – tending creation – was given to humans before the fall of Adam and Eve, and it is a part of the created order of God. God’s people are to take seriously their work responsibilities, laboring diligently to provide life’s necessities and pleasures.
Work is also God’s way of blessing the future. Like the ant which saves food for winter, we are called to apply a diligent work ethic to save up for seasons of scarcity. We are wise to lay in store for future needs even as we provide for present needs. Work provides meaning and purpose in human existence.
Application Idea
Talk with your students about the difference between meaningful work versus “working to get a paycheck” or working simply for the acquisition of things. You may find a helpful alternative teaching tool in the contemporary song Ants Go Marching by Dave Matthews Band. It offers a negative example of people who spend life working without meaning, simply going through motions out of routine, rather than working with purpose for God. It is a “G-rated” song with a poetic structure that is Dylan-esque, so if you choose to play this song for your learners, be sure to provide printed lyrics.
3. Be Warned About Wicked Dealings (Prov. 6:12-15)
Of the behaviors most frequently condemned by Israel’s prophets, evil dealings – especially at cost to the poor – are considered among the sins most despised. And in the last third of today’s passage, the troublemakers are warned they eventually bring calamity on themselves as a result of their wickedness, dishonesty, and evil plots.
The Bible teaches that dealing wickedly and dishonestly with others invites judgment and disaster on the one who does such things. This passage may have been present in Paul’s mind when he penned Galatians 6.7-8:
“Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. 8The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction; the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.”
Whether in business dealings or at home, Christian people are called to act honestly and avoid plots that aim at stealing or taking advantage of others. In addition, God’s people are to avoid things that stir up trouble. In a precautious mode, believers should also be alert to the possibility that some business people or coworkers may not be honest.
Application Idea:
Point to some contemporary businesses that have behave illegally or unethically for financial gain. Enron and Martha Stewart are a few of the most recent and public examples. You might also share a personal story of how wicked dealings affected you negatively in the work place. Ask your learners to city examples of their own.
Study Theme: Extraordinary Wisdom for Everyday Living
Date: Week of June 8, 2008
Title: Three Rules for Working Smart – Proverbs 6.1-15
Our identity is defined by a wide range of sources, but most commonly by our vocation. What we “do” for a living is perhaps the greatest sources of self-esteem, feelings of accomplishment, and dignity. Work also provides purpose and meaning to life, helping people to sense their usefulness in life – and for the greater good of humankind. But work can also be a source of stress:
· As young people, we worry about what we’re going to do with our lives in the future.
· As middle-agers, we wonder “what am I going to do when I grow up?” and consider unrealized goals and dreams.
· Senior adults ponder retirement and what our purpose will be after our career.
Wherever your learners may be on the spectrum of their career/vocation, they will have some touch points in today’s lesson. Today’s passage from Proverbs will encourage your learners that God wants them to have a fulfilling work life and will provide them with a model to faithfully pursue pleasing God through their work. Use today’s study time to explore some of these principles given to help your learners have a better work life.
Today’s passage teaches general life principles rather than specific commands about work and work relationships. The ideas in today’s passage do apply to the question “Ho can I have a better work life?” Biblical wisdom teaches God’s people to be wary of foolish entanglements, to work diligently, and to avoid dealing wickedly with others.
Passage Outline:
1. Be Wary of Foolish Entanglements (Prov. 6:1-5)
While this passage does not provide exemption from making commitments to help the poor or support the church, this passage does caution against getting involved in shady business deals or foolish financial entanglements. The wise father is urging his son to free himself quickly and honestly through humility from agreements that put the son’s assets at risk.
This passage also speaks to the foolish entanglements that come from bad vocational decisions. Encourage your learners to consider this passage before accepting an offer from a potential employer. Challenge your learners to consider the ethical implications of their employment.
If your learners are already in an employment or business ownership position that compromises their values and beliefs as a Christian, offer prayer and counsel about how they might discern God’s leadership in making professional changes. These verses warn against putting business or financial well-being at risk to people or circumstances beyond your control.
Application Idea
This is a good passage to explore how bad/unwise debt such as credit cards can be a bad financial decision that gives away control of your learner’s finances. It is likely that 50% or more of your learners will have burdensome credit card debt, so this passage should be an encouragement to discharge that debt as quickly and honestly as possible. Offer a few resources that can offer positive support to new Christians who are dealing with this very real burden. Good Cents group study, Financial Peace University, and other such programs offer Christian concepts of money management that will help families struggling with debt.
2. Be Wise in Your Work Ethic (Prov. 6:6-11)
This passage warns slackers to adopt the ant’s diligent work habits lest they fall into poverty as a result of laziness. Not all who are unemployed are lazy. And not all who work hard are paid fairly. But diligence – or a lack thereof – is tied to poverty and want in many situations. The ant saves food in preparation for the coming winter, and by example teaches us that diligence in work now prepares for hard seasons of life to come.
Scripture also teaches the wisdom and command of God to rest from work regularly for renewal – physical, spiritual, and emotional – by way of Sabbath keeping. But rest is to be a part of the rhythm of life that includes regular work. Work – tending creation – was given to humans before the fall of Adam and Eve, and it is a part of the created order of God. God’s people are to take seriously their work responsibilities, laboring diligently to provide life’s necessities and pleasures.
Work is also God’s way of blessing the future. Like the ant which saves food for winter, we are called to apply a diligent work ethic to save up for seasons of scarcity. We are wise to lay in store for future needs even as we provide for present needs. Work provides meaning and purpose in human existence.
Application Idea
Talk with your students about the difference between meaningful work versus “working to get a paycheck” or working simply for the acquisition of things. You may find a helpful alternative teaching tool in the contemporary song Ants Go Marching by Dave Matthews Band. It offers a negative example of people who spend life working without meaning, simply going through motions out of routine, rather than working with purpose for God. It is a “G-rated” song with a poetic structure that is Dylan-esque, so if you choose to play this song for your learners, be sure to provide printed lyrics.
3. Be Warned About Wicked Dealings (Prov. 6:12-15)
Of the behaviors most frequently condemned by Israel’s prophets, evil dealings – especially at cost to the poor – are considered among the sins most despised. And in the last third of today’s passage, the troublemakers are warned they eventually bring calamity on themselves as a result of their wickedness, dishonesty, and evil plots.
The Bible teaches that dealing wickedly and dishonestly with others invites judgment and disaster on the one who does such things. This passage may have been present in Paul’s mind when he penned Galatians 6.7-8:
“Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. 8The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction; the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.”
Whether in business dealings or at home, Christian people are called to act honestly and avoid plots that aim at stealing or taking advantage of others. In addition, God’s people are to avoid things that stir up trouble. In a precautious mode, believers should also be alert to the possibility that some business people or coworkers may not be honest.
Application Idea:
Point to some contemporary businesses that have behave illegally or unethically for financial gain. Enron and Martha Stewart are a few of the most recent and public examples. You might also share a personal story of how wicked dealings affected you negatively in the work place. Ask your learners to city examples of their own.
Extraordinary Wisdom for Everday Living - June 15, 2008
Study Theme: Extraordinary Wisdom for Everyday Living
Date: Week of June 15, 2008
Title: How to Storm-Proof Your Home
Bible Passage(s):
Background Passage(s): Proverbs 22:17–24:22
Focal Passage(s): Proverbs 23:22–24:4
Today’s lesson is indeed fitting for Father’s Day weekend, as your learners will most likely be thinking about family life. While no home or family is invulnerable to the storms of life, the principles from today’s lessons will help fathers, mothers, and children in the home to build a home that is more resistant to life’s storms. Some of those storms are external to the home and some are internal, but both kinds can disrupt and destroy a family’s stability. Today’s look at Proverbs 23.22-22.4 will provide strength for shelter from the storms.
1. Stay True (Prov. 23:22-25)
In this opening passage the son is being advised to listen to and treasure the upbringing his parents provided him. Parents always rejoice when their children turn out well in life, and parents all do the best they can to raise children well. The greatest credit a child can pay to his or her parents is to hold onto the truth, wisdom, instruction, and understanding passed on to them, and to build on those great gifts.
This passage is part of a collection of thirty sayings known as “Words of the Wise.” These are practical pieces of advice that would have been part of a Jewish child’s instruction. This is the wisdom of a father to his son.
Ask your learners to consider the advantages of life they experience because of such gifts from their parents. Certain values that are acquired in childhood make all the difference in later life. A strong work ethic, a love for education and knowledge, an appreciation of the fine arts are all examples of values that we receive as children. Much of secular society endorses the transmission of these values, but the Christian home that passes along godly wisdom and faith add more. This home provides a spiritual worldview that pursues justice, lives faithfully, and also in the long run a happier, more peaceful life.
Christians, then, are called to be true to the godly teachings of their childhood, to honor their parents with right-living, as well as with deeds of respect and kindness. You may also want to acknowledge that not everyone has experienced a Christian upbringing. This is something to be lamented, but also provides a framework for contrast of adult living to the childhood ways that should be left behind.
Application Ideas:
• We show wisdom and demonstrate that we are committed to live right when we respect our parents throughout their lives and stay true to a godly heritage they passed on to us. Ask your learners to identify values they gained from their home life as a child. Ask them to consider what values they have passed on to their children/grandchildren, and how they can continue to pass along these values.
• We not only please God but also delight our Christian parents when they see us living in accordance with God’s wisdom, instruction, and understanding. Ask your learners to consider what values they learned but have lost or failed to live out. A good cultural reference is the country song Where’d You Learn to Talk Like That? by Rodney Atkins. Consider this: Obtain a recording of this song and play it for your learners as they gather.
Here are the lyrics:
Drivin’ through town just my boy and meWith a Happy Meal in his booster seatKnowin’ that he couldn’t have the toy ‘til his nuggets were gone.A green traffic light turned straight to redI hit my brakes and mumbled under my breath.His fries went a flyin’, and his orange drink covered his lapWell, then my four year old said a four letter wordIt started with “S” and I was concernedSo I said, “Son, now where’d you learn to talk like that?”Chorus:He said, "I’ve been watching you, dad ain’t that cool?I’m your buckaroo, I wanna be like you.And eat all my food and grow as tall as you are.We got cowboy boots and camo pantsYeah, we’re just alike, hey, ain’t we dad?I want to do everything you do.So I’ve been watching you."We got back home and I went to the barnI bowed my head and I prayed real hardSaid, “Lord, please help me help my stupid self.”Just this side of bedtime later that nightTurnin’ on my son’s Scooby-Doo nightlight.He crawled out of bed and he got down on his knees.He closed his little eyes, folded his little handsSpoke to God like he was talkin’ to a friend.And I said, “Son, now where’d you learn to pray like that?”Chorus:He said, "I’ve been watching you, dad ain’t that cool?I’m your buckaroo; I want to be like you.And eat all my food and grow as tall as you are.We like fixin’ things and holding moma’s handYeah, we’re just alike, hey, ain’t we dad?I want to do everything you do; so I’ve been watching you"With tears in my eyes I wrapped him in a hug.Said, “My little man is growin’ up.”And he said, “But when I’m big I’ll still know what to do.”"‘Cause I’ve been watching you, dad ain’t that cool?I’m your buckaroo; I want to be like you.And eat all my food and grow as tall as you are.By then I’ll be strong as supermanWe’ll be just alike, hey, won’t we dadWhen I can do everything you do.‘cause I’ve been watchin’ you."hey yeahuh huh
2. Stay Pure (Prov. 23:26-28)
In this section of scripture the son is urged to follow his father’s example and to avoid being lured into sexual impurity. There is hardly a more culturally relevant passage of scripture for today than this one. We know that sexual temptation is available virtually everywhere we turn, and the proliferation of pornography via the internet has pushed things to an extreme level. The internet is not the only vehicle, however. Just a few weeks ago I had to explain the purpose of Viagra to my 10 year old son after he’d been watching television at seven in the evening.
The effects of media on human sexuality can be corrosive and ultimately damaging. Media supplants the home and church in providing good sexual shaping of young people, and pathetic is the church or home that doesn’t address these matters openly and from a Biblically based perspective. The adulterous woman of this passage of scripture provides a lure and a trap for the abuse of the God-given gift of sexuality. Unless men and women are equipped by the teachings of Scripture on how to properly celebrate their sexuality, sexual impurity in an form will diminish lives and steal something precious from family relationships.
So then, storm proofing your home with Godly wisdom will include many things. Here are a few practical ideas to offer your learners.
Application Ideas:
• We can better resist sexual temptation in today’s immoral climate by discovering and emulating role models of sexual purity and marital faithfulness. Ask your learners to make a commitment to model sexual purity and marital faithfulness in their own lives.
• Christian parents should never underestimate the influence they have on their children’s futures by being role models of sexual purity and marital faithfulness. Ask your learners to think about how their home and church life can be more open to discuss human sexuality in meaningful ways that will provide young adults, teens, and children with answer to their natural questions, as well as the consequences of wrong sexual activity.
• Both men and women can be lured into sexual temptation – note to your learners that the old-school notions about a woman’s disinterest in sex are false ones. Discussion about sexually temptation cannot be simply limited to a “boys will be boys” framework.
3. Stay Clear (Prov. 23:29-35)
Scripture warns of the seductive yet devastating effects of beverage alcohol—effects that include a variety of sorrows and troubles as well as one’s loss of control resulting from drunkenness and the potential of one’s becoming tragically addicted. Seemingly everyone has been touched by the troubles of alcoholism or drug addiction. We can avoid many personal troubles and damage to our family by simply refusing to drink alcohol. This is not a condemnation of all drinking, but it is a good way to avoid problems of addiction in your family.
While one may argue the Bible’s view on the use of alcohol, the dangers of its abuse are clear – addiction of all types can be damaging to families.
Application Ideas:
Ask your learners to discuss their experiences with alcoholism or drug addiction. Ask whether they say positive or negative outcomes.
4. Stay Wise (Prov. 24:1-4)
This passage scripture takes turn to talk now about envy. This passage teaches God’s people never to envy those who do evil; instead God’s people are to build their homes with godly wisdom, understanding, and knowledge. This is a difficult challenge when we see families that seem more prosperous or have more “toys” and possessions. By outward standards, homes that gain material goods but live lives of evil may seem to be happy. But the writer of Proverbs reminds that the opposite is actually true. What they do is wrong and hurtful to others and to God.
Application Ideas:
• We are wise to build our lives and homes not on things acquired by evil means but on enduring qualities we gain from knowing and understanding God’s ways. Ask your learners to consider the parable of the houses built on shifting sand versus the stone. A good song to go with this point is Gordon Lightfoot’s The House You Live In (sung recently by Kate Campbell, well worth a listen). Here are the lyrics:
• Go first in the world, go forth with your fearsRemember a price must be paidBe always too soon, be never too fastAt the time when all bets must be laidBeware of the darkness, be kind to your childrenRemember the woman who waitsAnd the house you live in will never fall downIf you pity the stranger who stands at your gate
• When you're caught by the gale and you're full under sailBeware of the dangers belowAnd the song that you sing should not be too sadAnd be sure not to sing it too slowBe calm in the face of all common disgracesAnd know what they're doin' it forAnd the house you live in will never fall downIf you pity the stranger who stands at your door
• When you're out on the road and feelin' quite lostConsider the burden of fameAnd he who is wise will not criticizeWhen other men fail at the gameBeware of strange faces and dark dingy placesBe careful while bending the lawAnd the house you live in will never fall downIf you pity the stranger who stands at your door
• When you're down in the dumps and not ready to dealDecide what it is that you needIs it money or love, is it learnin' to liveOr is it the mouth you must feedBe known as a man who will always be candidOn questions that do not relateAnd the house you live in will never fall downIf you pity the stranger who stands at your gateAnd the house you live in will never fall downIf you pity the stranger who stands at your gate
Date: Week of June 15, 2008
Title: How to Storm-Proof Your Home
Bible Passage(s):
Background Passage(s): Proverbs 22:17–24:22
Focal Passage(s): Proverbs 23:22–24:4
Today’s lesson is indeed fitting for Father’s Day weekend, as your learners will most likely be thinking about family life. While no home or family is invulnerable to the storms of life, the principles from today’s lessons will help fathers, mothers, and children in the home to build a home that is more resistant to life’s storms. Some of those storms are external to the home and some are internal, but both kinds can disrupt and destroy a family’s stability. Today’s look at Proverbs 23.22-22.4 will provide strength for shelter from the storms.
1. Stay True (Prov. 23:22-25)
In this opening passage the son is being advised to listen to and treasure the upbringing his parents provided him. Parents always rejoice when their children turn out well in life, and parents all do the best they can to raise children well. The greatest credit a child can pay to his or her parents is to hold onto the truth, wisdom, instruction, and understanding passed on to them, and to build on those great gifts.
This passage is part of a collection of thirty sayings known as “Words of the Wise.” These are practical pieces of advice that would have been part of a Jewish child’s instruction. This is the wisdom of a father to his son.
Ask your learners to consider the advantages of life they experience because of such gifts from their parents. Certain values that are acquired in childhood make all the difference in later life. A strong work ethic, a love for education and knowledge, an appreciation of the fine arts are all examples of values that we receive as children. Much of secular society endorses the transmission of these values, but the Christian home that passes along godly wisdom and faith add more. This home provides a spiritual worldview that pursues justice, lives faithfully, and also in the long run a happier, more peaceful life.
Christians, then, are called to be true to the godly teachings of their childhood, to honor their parents with right-living, as well as with deeds of respect and kindness. You may also want to acknowledge that not everyone has experienced a Christian upbringing. This is something to be lamented, but also provides a framework for contrast of adult living to the childhood ways that should be left behind.
Application Ideas:
• We show wisdom and demonstrate that we are committed to live right when we respect our parents throughout their lives and stay true to a godly heritage they passed on to us. Ask your learners to identify values they gained from their home life as a child. Ask them to consider what values they have passed on to their children/grandchildren, and how they can continue to pass along these values.
• We not only please God but also delight our Christian parents when they see us living in accordance with God’s wisdom, instruction, and understanding. Ask your learners to consider what values they learned but have lost or failed to live out. A good cultural reference is the country song Where’d You Learn to Talk Like That? by Rodney Atkins. Consider this: Obtain a recording of this song and play it for your learners as they gather.
Here are the lyrics:
Drivin’ through town just my boy and meWith a Happy Meal in his booster seatKnowin’ that he couldn’t have the toy ‘til his nuggets were gone.A green traffic light turned straight to redI hit my brakes and mumbled under my breath.His fries went a flyin’, and his orange drink covered his lapWell, then my four year old said a four letter wordIt started with “S” and I was concernedSo I said, “Son, now where’d you learn to talk like that?”Chorus:He said, "I’ve been watching you, dad ain’t that cool?I’m your buckaroo, I wanna be like you.And eat all my food and grow as tall as you are.We got cowboy boots and camo pantsYeah, we’re just alike, hey, ain’t we dad?I want to do everything you do.So I’ve been watching you."We got back home and I went to the barnI bowed my head and I prayed real hardSaid, “Lord, please help me help my stupid self.”Just this side of bedtime later that nightTurnin’ on my son’s Scooby-Doo nightlight.He crawled out of bed and he got down on his knees.He closed his little eyes, folded his little handsSpoke to God like he was talkin’ to a friend.And I said, “Son, now where’d you learn to pray like that?”Chorus:He said, "I’ve been watching you, dad ain’t that cool?I’m your buckaroo; I want to be like you.And eat all my food and grow as tall as you are.We like fixin’ things and holding moma’s handYeah, we’re just alike, hey, ain’t we dad?I want to do everything you do; so I’ve been watching you"With tears in my eyes I wrapped him in a hug.Said, “My little man is growin’ up.”And he said, “But when I’m big I’ll still know what to do.”"‘Cause I’ve been watching you, dad ain’t that cool?I’m your buckaroo; I want to be like you.And eat all my food and grow as tall as you are.By then I’ll be strong as supermanWe’ll be just alike, hey, won’t we dadWhen I can do everything you do.‘cause I’ve been watchin’ you."hey yeahuh huh
2. Stay Pure (Prov. 23:26-28)
In this section of scripture the son is urged to follow his father’s example and to avoid being lured into sexual impurity. There is hardly a more culturally relevant passage of scripture for today than this one. We know that sexual temptation is available virtually everywhere we turn, and the proliferation of pornography via the internet has pushed things to an extreme level. The internet is not the only vehicle, however. Just a few weeks ago I had to explain the purpose of Viagra to my 10 year old son after he’d been watching television at seven in the evening.
The effects of media on human sexuality can be corrosive and ultimately damaging. Media supplants the home and church in providing good sexual shaping of young people, and pathetic is the church or home that doesn’t address these matters openly and from a Biblically based perspective. The adulterous woman of this passage of scripture provides a lure and a trap for the abuse of the God-given gift of sexuality. Unless men and women are equipped by the teachings of Scripture on how to properly celebrate their sexuality, sexual impurity in an form will diminish lives and steal something precious from family relationships.
So then, storm proofing your home with Godly wisdom will include many things. Here are a few practical ideas to offer your learners.
Application Ideas:
• We can better resist sexual temptation in today’s immoral climate by discovering and emulating role models of sexual purity and marital faithfulness. Ask your learners to make a commitment to model sexual purity and marital faithfulness in their own lives.
• Christian parents should never underestimate the influence they have on their children’s futures by being role models of sexual purity and marital faithfulness. Ask your learners to think about how their home and church life can be more open to discuss human sexuality in meaningful ways that will provide young adults, teens, and children with answer to their natural questions, as well as the consequences of wrong sexual activity.
• Both men and women can be lured into sexual temptation – note to your learners that the old-school notions about a woman’s disinterest in sex are false ones. Discussion about sexually temptation cannot be simply limited to a “boys will be boys” framework.
3. Stay Clear (Prov. 23:29-35)
Scripture warns of the seductive yet devastating effects of beverage alcohol—effects that include a variety of sorrows and troubles as well as one’s loss of control resulting from drunkenness and the potential of one’s becoming tragically addicted. Seemingly everyone has been touched by the troubles of alcoholism or drug addiction. We can avoid many personal troubles and damage to our family by simply refusing to drink alcohol. This is not a condemnation of all drinking, but it is a good way to avoid problems of addiction in your family.
While one may argue the Bible’s view on the use of alcohol, the dangers of its abuse are clear – addiction of all types can be damaging to families.
Application Ideas:
Ask your learners to discuss their experiences with alcoholism or drug addiction. Ask whether they say positive or negative outcomes.
4. Stay Wise (Prov. 24:1-4)
This passage scripture takes turn to talk now about envy. This passage teaches God’s people never to envy those who do evil; instead God’s people are to build their homes with godly wisdom, understanding, and knowledge. This is a difficult challenge when we see families that seem more prosperous or have more “toys” and possessions. By outward standards, homes that gain material goods but live lives of evil may seem to be happy. But the writer of Proverbs reminds that the opposite is actually true. What they do is wrong and hurtful to others and to God.
Application Ideas:
• We are wise to build our lives and homes not on things acquired by evil means but on enduring qualities we gain from knowing and understanding God’s ways. Ask your learners to consider the parable of the houses built on shifting sand versus the stone. A good song to go with this point is Gordon Lightfoot’s The House You Live In (sung recently by Kate Campbell, well worth a listen). Here are the lyrics:
• Go first in the world, go forth with your fearsRemember a price must be paidBe always too soon, be never too fastAt the time when all bets must be laidBeware of the darkness, be kind to your childrenRemember the woman who waitsAnd the house you live in will never fall downIf you pity the stranger who stands at your gate
• When you're caught by the gale and you're full under sailBeware of the dangers belowAnd the song that you sing should not be too sadAnd be sure not to sing it too slowBe calm in the face of all common disgracesAnd know what they're doin' it forAnd the house you live in will never fall downIf you pity the stranger who stands at your door
• When you're out on the road and feelin' quite lostConsider the burden of fameAnd he who is wise will not criticizeWhen other men fail at the gameBeware of strange faces and dark dingy placesBe careful while bending the lawAnd the house you live in will never fall downIf you pity the stranger who stands at your door
• When you're down in the dumps and not ready to dealDecide what it is that you needIs it money or love, is it learnin' to liveOr is it the mouth you must feedBe known as a man who will always be candidOn questions that do not relateAnd the house you live in will never fall downIf you pity the stranger who stands at your gateAnd the house you live in will never fall downIf you pity the stranger who stands at your gate
Extraordinary Wisdom for Everday Living - June 22, 2008
LESSON OUTLINE
Study Theme: Extraordinary Wisdom for Everyday Living
Date: Week of June 22, 2008
Title: Word Power Made Wise
Bible Passages: Proverbs 17:27-28; 18:20-21; 25:11-12; 26:20-22,28
What bothers me so badly about a loud mouth in a restaurant or theatre having a cell phone conversation? Is it that it’s just loud? Or am I bothered by the fact that I’m hearing way more personal information than I need or want to know? At the core of this social faux pas is the truth that some folk have no boundaries – words to them are cheap and flow effortlessly and thoughtlessly.
Your learners will connect easily to this lesson because each of us has experienced the misuse of words. Words can distance people from one another. Words can offend. Words can hurt. Words can lie. Words can damage.
But words can also do good. Words can bring people closer. Words can solidify people around ideas. Words can bring healing. Words can convey deep truth. Words can carry love, understanding, and encouragement. This is the reason why Christians must carefully choose words, and sometimes censor our words rather that blurting out whatever comes to mind. Today’s Bible reading teaches us that we are accountable for our words and that God wants us always to use our words for good. Words have real power and we should use them with wisdom.
1. Choose Your Words Carefully (Prov. 17:27-28)
Ask your learners if they’ve ever said something the regretted? By nature, humans make that mistake. Sometimes we say things in anger that hurt others, and later we must apologize. Sometimes we say things hurriedly, and our impatience betrays us to less mature ways.
Ask your learners if they’ve ever fallen into the trap of “angry email.” That’s a situation where many people have found themselves. For example, they receive an email from another party that is offensive and they yield to the temptation to use words inappropriately. The reason this is persistent problem in our culture of computers is that we are more likely to “blast” someone via email than in person. And, like the toothpaste out of the tube, once that email is out there, it can’ be retrieved.
This passage teaches that keeping silent is better than commenting on situations that we don’t fully understand. It also teaches us that saying things that are reactionary, rather than well thought out can lead to difficulty in relationships. It’s best, then, to keep silent until we have chosen our words carefully. By thinking before they speak and being careful about what they say, God’s people avoid getting into trouble because of their words. Moreover, we can avoid embarrassment and trouble by carefully guarding our speech.
2. Respect the Power of Words (Prov. 18:20-21)
We show wisdom when we understand how our words can bear fruit in others lives. The power of words if real, and can be used for good effect. Proverbs 15.4 is an additional text you will want to highlight for your learners, as it points to the power of a good word, comparing it to a tree of life.
Undoubtedly, we have been hurt by the words of others, and have caused hurt in the lives of others with words. This is something we must continually examine in our spiritual lives. But we have a responsibility that goes beyond “do no harm” and extends into “do good with our words.” Christians can be live-affirming and life-giving in every social circle and have a responsibility and privilege to counter negativity, false-hood, and slander with words that communicate God’s light. It is a very real and practical way in which we can be a blessing to others around us.
Perhaps the greatest use of time at this point in the lesson would be to allow for some silence and prayer asking God to reveal better ways to use their words. Consider these statements as a guided prayer for your group:
· God, reveal to me times when I have caused hurt with my words.
· God, give me insight into how I can speak words of encouragement to someone specific in my life.
· God, forgive me for using words negatively, and forgive me for times when I have failed to use words for good.
· God, give me sensitivity to know when to speak and when to remain silent.
3. Use Good Words (Prov. 25:11-12)
Now that you have spent some time with your learners thinking about good and bad uses of words, it will be helpful to look at specific traits of good words. This proverb teaches that an aptly spoken word is like apple of gold set in silver – precious and desirable. But what makes for an “aptly spoken word?” There are many elements, but to be sure the definitions include truthfulness, gentleness, and pleasantness.
We’ve been taught from a young age to always speak the truth. Proverbs 14.25 reminds us that a truthful word has the ability even to save lives, and that a mistruth can bear false witness – and even lead to death. As your learners concentrate on using good words, truthfulness will be the primary characteristic you want to reinforce. The reality is that while we all know this teaching is the ideal, many times we fail to achieve the standard. Use of good words does not leave room for outright lies, nor lies of omission.
Speaking the truth is hard, and even more difficult is the challenge to speak truth gently. A gentle tongue can indeed turn away wrath, but can also promote the ability to be truly heard by the other. Ask your learners to remember a time when someone told them something they didn’t want to hear. Ask them to consider whether they heard that “truth” better or worse because of the tone of voice, the eye contact, or the body language of the other. Ask them to consider ways that speaking truth gently can happen. Is it all in the words you say? Or is it how the words are delivered?
4. Avoid Trash Talk (Prov. 26:20-22,28)
Scripture pinpoints gossiping, constant quarreling, and flattering someone insincerely as examples of especially hurtful, destructive speech. This passage points to the troubles of such speech, and also to the consequences of such speech. The bottom line? The truth comes out eventually.
By refusing to gossip or listen to gossip we can help cool down conflict rather than heat it up. This is one of the most prevalent problems in established churches. There is a lack of focus on doing justice and mercy when gossip is the main food of the fellowship, and even listening to such talk is destructive to the church.
You can call your learners to self-examination and confession about this topic. Ask your students how they perceive the gossip/trash talking affects your congregation.
Study Theme: Extraordinary Wisdom for Everyday Living
Date: Week of June 22, 2008
Title: Word Power Made Wise
Bible Passages: Proverbs 17:27-28; 18:20-21; 25:11-12; 26:20-22,28
What bothers me so badly about a loud mouth in a restaurant or theatre having a cell phone conversation? Is it that it’s just loud? Or am I bothered by the fact that I’m hearing way more personal information than I need or want to know? At the core of this social faux pas is the truth that some folk have no boundaries – words to them are cheap and flow effortlessly and thoughtlessly.
Your learners will connect easily to this lesson because each of us has experienced the misuse of words. Words can distance people from one another. Words can offend. Words can hurt. Words can lie. Words can damage.
But words can also do good. Words can bring people closer. Words can solidify people around ideas. Words can bring healing. Words can convey deep truth. Words can carry love, understanding, and encouragement. This is the reason why Christians must carefully choose words, and sometimes censor our words rather that blurting out whatever comes to mind. Today’s Bible reading teaches us that we are accountable for our words and that God wants us always to use our words for good. Words have real power and we should use them with wisdom.
1. Choose Your Words Carefully (Prov. 17:27-28)
Ask your learners if they’ve ever said something the regretted? By nature, humans make that mistake. Sometimes we say things in anger that hurt others, and later we must apologize. Sometimes we say things hurriedly, and our impatience betrays us to less mature ways.
Ask your learners if they’ve ever fallen into the trap of “angry email.” That’s a situation where many people have found themselves. For example, they receive an email from another party that is offensive and they yield to the temptation to use words inappropriately. The reason this is persistent problem in our culture of computers is that we are more likely to “blast” someone via email than in person. And, like the toothpaste out of the tube, once that email is out there, it can’ be retrieved.
This passage teaches that keeping silent is better than commenting on situations that we don’t fully understand. It also teaches us that saying things that are reactionary, rather than well thought out can lead to difficulty in relationships. It’s best, then, to keep silent until we have chosen our words carefully. By thinking before they speak and being careful about what they say, God’s people avoid getting into trouble because of their words. Moreover, we can avoid embarrassment and trouble by carefully guarding our speech.
2. Respect the Power of Words (Prov. 18:20-21)
We show wisdom when we understand how our words can bear fruit in others lives. The power of words if real, and can be used for good effect. Proverbs 15.4 is an additional text you will want to highlight for your learners, as it points to the power of a good word, comparing it to a tree of life.
Undoubtedly, we have been hurt by the words of others, and have caused hurt in the lives of others with words. This is something we must continually examine in our spiritual lives. But we have a responsibility that goes beyond “do no harm” and extends into “do good with our words.” Christians can be live-affirming and life-giving in every social circle and have a responsibility and privilege to counter negativity, false-hood, and slander with words that communicate God’s light. It is a very real and practical way in which we can be a blessing to others around us.
Perhaps the greatest use of time at this point in the lesson would be to allow for some silence and prayer asking God to reveal better ways to use their words. Consider these statements as a guided prayer for your group:
· God, reveal to me times when I have caused hurt with my words.
· God, give me insight into how I can speak words of encouragement to someone specific in my life.
· God, forgive me for using words negatively, and forgive me for times when I have failed to use words for good.
· God, give me sensitivity to know when to speak and when to remain silent.
3. Use Good Words (Prov. 25:11-12)
Now that you have spent some time with your learners thinking about good and bad uses of words, it will be helpful to look at specific traits of good words. This proverb teaches that an aptly spoken word is like apple of gold set in silver – precious and desirable. But what makes for an “aptly spoken word?” There are many elements, but to be sure the definitions include truthfulness, gentleness, and pleasantness.
We’ve been taught from a young age to always speak the truth. Proverbs 14.25 reminds us that a truthful word has the ability even to save lives, and that a mistruth can bear false witness – and even lead to death. As your learners concentrate on using good words, truthfulness will be the primary characteristic you want to reinforce. The reality is that while we all know this teaching is the ideal, many times we fail to achieve the standard. Use of good words does not leave room for outright lies, nor lies of omission.
Speaking the truth is hard, and even more difficult is the challenge to speak truth gently. A gentle tongue can indeed turn away wrath, but can also promote the ability to be truly heard by the other. Ask your learners to remember a time when someone told them something they didn’t want to hear. Ask them to consider whether they heard that “truth” better or worse because of the tone of voice, the eye contact, or the body language of the other. Ask them to consider ways that speaking truth gently can happen. Is it all in the words you say? Or is it how the words are delivered?
4. Avoid Trash Talk (Prov. 26:20-22,28)
Scripture pinpoints gossiping, constant quarreling, and flattering someone insincerely as examples of especially hurtful, destructive speech. This passage points to the troubles of such speech, and also to the consequences of such speech. The bottom line? The truth comes out eventually.
By refusing to gossip or listen to gossip we can help cool down conflict rather than heat it up. This is one of the most prevalent problems in established churches. There is a lack of focus on doing justice and mercy when gossip is the main food of the fellowship, and even listening to such talk is destructive to the church.
You can call your learners to self-examination and confession about this topic. Ask your students how they perceive the gossip/trash talking affects your congregation.
Extraordinary Wisdom for Everday Living - June 29, 2008
Here is week 5
LESSON OUTLINE
Study Theme: Extraordinary Wisdom for Everyday Living
Date: Week of June 29, 2008
Title: If Your Money Could Talk
Bible Passages: Proverbs 3:9-10; 11:24-26; 13:11; 15:16-17; 16:11; 23:4-5
Managing money is one of the most difficult challenges of life, and how we manage money as a Christian says much about our faith. Christians are called to view the handling of money as an act of stewardship over something they do not own. Culture, however, suggests that “I earned it, so it’s mine to use however I choose.” This contrast defines the essential differences of how money is used.
The contrast also explains the difference between a Christian view of abundance and surplus that leads to satisfaction and contentedness versus the view of money as something after which one should clamor with every effort possible – and then hoard. It also frames the struggle of acquiring wealth by illegal or unethical means, and it frames the problems that many experience when their sole focus is the gain of wealth. The physical and spiritual implications are profound, as are the relationship problems that arise when greed takes over.
In short, today’s proverbs are really about developing a theology of stewardship in our lives, one which believes in the idea that God provides to the point of abundance – it is simply for us to choose the view of stewardship. The main question for your learner’s today is this: What do my attitudes about money reveal about my life and faith? The goal is to help them see that God’s people honor God in the ways they think about, earn, and spend their money.
Focal Passage Outline:
1. Check Your Spiritual Balance Regularly (Prov. 3:9-10; 15:16-17)
Proverbs 3.9 in the NIV says that we should honor God with our “wealth.” But this does not capture the full extent of the Hebrew idea. The text more fully means that we should honor God with our “being” – everything that we have. Not only is our money part of how we honor God, but so is our thinking, our actions, and our ways of using our money. When followers of God honor God in this way, the first of what we own/possess is due to God.
The concept of the first fruit offering is based here and is a part of ceremonial Hebrew law. The promise of scripture is that if we have this mindset, then we will also view our lives as full of abundance. Our barns will be full of food, our vats full of wine. Make sure to note the sidebar in the printed material about the “First Fruits” offering in your preparations.
Proverbs 15.16-17 further this view, with the idea that it is better to have few possessions and be at peace with God than to have many possessions and be at odds with God. This proverb shatters the notion that wealth will lead to happiness and that material goods will be a substitute for the life of peace. The priority of biblical wisdom teaches that the priority of God’s people is to honor God with all that we possess and with all that we are. This is how we trust that God’s provision is the very best asset in our financial portfolio.
At the end of the day, these two passages of scripture teach us that money cannot provide us the important things of life, such as love and right relations with God and neighbor.
2. Never Fall in Love with $$$ (Prov. 23:4-5)
This passage states clearly that the facets of wealth which enamor us will disappear quickly. Wealth can “sprout wings and fly off to the sky” quite easily. This is not to say that wealth evaporates, but it is to say that the things we believe wealth will provide us – like security, happiness, friendship, comfort, etc – will sprout wings and fly. That is because all notions of those ideals are shattered when we learn that money cannot secure them for us. Only living a godly life can help us discover true happiness, friendship, security, or comfort.
Wealth also appears to have sprouted wings and flown away when we observe how greed can destroy a person’s well-being. Only by keeping wealth in proper perspective and never focusing our lives solely on gaining or keeping wealth that we can find our lives invested in the things that matter most – in the things that endure.
You will find additional Biblical thinking on this concept at Proverbs 11:28; 28:22,25.
Application Idea – An extraordinary insight into how pursuit of money affects all socio-economic classes is found the song Sweetest Girl – (Dollar Bill) by Haitian born Wyclef Jean. Be warned that though the singers make a prophetic critique of greed and the societal impact of the quest for a dollar, references are made to strippers and prostitution. The song fully describes the depths to which people will go for financial security and will connect to folk who listen to pop radio.
3. Make Every Buck Honestly (Prov. 13:11; 16:11)
This first Proverb teaches that the dishonest gain of wealth will dwindle quickly. While the NIV translates it as “dishonest money,” the NRSF offers “wealth hastily gained” as a variant translation on the Hebrew word that means “from vanity.” So no matter what translation you may use for teaching, the idea that wealth should be gained by doing good honest work remains true. Biblical wisdom instructs people to make money honestly because, as Proverbs 16.11 will suggest, God blesses honest work and fair trade, and God condemns dishonest trade and quick, sloppy work.
Application Ideas –
Ask your learners to examine their own work ethics. Do they give their employers “all 8” during the work day? Do they cut corners on occasion or with regularity? If they are business owners, do they always make sure to treat their employees and customers to the highest standards?
Another idea – ask your learners who use computers for work to measure the amount of time they spend surfing the net while on company time? Is it ever ok to justify this behavior with the idea that “just a little is ok” or “all the other employees do it even more than I do?”
4. Grow in Generosity (Prov. 11:24-26)
This proverb demonstrates yet one more of the counter-intuitive principles of God’s way of living life. It says that the more generous we are, the more we are enriched, and, conversely, the more we hoard, the more we are cursed. It is antithetical to trusting in God’s provision when we hoard up for the future to the disadvantage of those around us.
You see this all the time at those “all you can eat” buffets. You go there for lunch knowing that dinner is already planned for, yet you eat the lunch buffet as if there were no guarantee of dinner! We behave the same way in our ethics, as if there is a limited amount of good “stuff” in life, so we hoard that good stuff with the intent of keeping others from drawing down on the “fund of goodness.” But reality is that God’s goodness and abundance are never depleted. Christians are most god-like when they trust this reality and give generously to others.
The bottom line is that generosity enriches the giver and forges and unselfish attitude. This is not a version of the “gospel of prosperity” but the reality is that the one who gives away will provide a blessing to the giver that may or may not be financial prosperity. However, one can be assured it will be a blessing of God’s abundance.
LESSON OUTLINE
Study Theme: Extraordinary Wisdom for Everyday Living
Date: Week of June 29, 2008
Title: If Your Money Could Talk
Bible Passages: Proverbs 3:9-10; 11:24-26; 13:11; 15:16-17; 16:11; 23:4-5
Managing money is one of the most difficult challenges of life, and how we manage money as a Christian says much about our faith. Christians are called to view the handling of money as an act of stewardship over something they do not own. Culture, however, suggests that “I earned it, so it’s mine to use however I choose.” This contrast defines the essential differences of how money is used.
The contrast also explains the difference between a Christian view of abundance and surplus that leads to satisfaction and contentedness versus the view of money as something after which one should clamor with every effort possible – and then hoard. It also frames the struggle of acquiring wealth by illegal or unethical means, and it frames the problems that many experience when their sole focus is the gain of wealth. The physical and spiritual implications are profound, as are the relationship problems that arise when greed takes over.
In short, today’s proverbs are really about developing a theology of stewardship in our lives, one which believes in the idea that God provides to the point of abundance – it is simply for us to choose the view of stewardship. The main question for your learner’s today is this: What do my attitudes about money reveal about my life and faith? The goal is to help them see that God’s people honor God in the ways they think about, earn, and spend their money.
Focal Passage Outline:
1. Check Your Spiritual Balance Regularly (Prov. 3:9-10; 15:16-17)
Proverbs 3.9 in the NIV says that we should honor God with our “wealth.” But this does not capture the full extent of the Hebrew idea. The text more fully means that we should honor God with our “being” – everything that we have. Not only is our money part of how we honor God, but so is our thinking, our actions, and our ways of using our money. When followers of God honor God in this way, the first of what we own/possess is due to God.
The concept of the first fruit offering is based here and is a part of ceremonial Hebrew law. The promise of scripture is that if we have this mindset, then we will also view our lives as full of abundance. Our barns will be full of food, our vats full of wine. Make sure to note the sidebar in the printed material about the “First Fruits” offering in your preparations.
Proverbs 15.16-17 further this view, with the idea that it is better to have few possessions and be at peace with God than to have many possessions and be at odds with God. This proverb shatters the notion that wealth will lead to happiness and that material goods will be a substitute for the life of peace. The priority of biblical wisdom teaches that the priority of God’s people is to honor God with all that we possess and with all that we are. This is how we trust that God’s provision is the very best asset in our financial portfolio.
At the end of the day, these two passages of scripture teach us that money cannot provide us the important things of life, such as love and right relations with God and neighbor.
2. Never Fall in Love with $$$ (Prov. 23:4-5)
This passage states clearly that the facets of wealth which enamor us will disappear quickly. Wealth can “sprout wings and fly off to the sky” quite easily. This is not to say that wealth evaporates, but it is to say that the things we believe wealth will provide us – like security, happiness, friendship, comfort, etc – will sprout wings and fly. That is because all notions of those ideals are shattered when we learn that money cannot secure them for us. Only living a godly life can help us discover true happiness, friendship, security, or comfort.
Wealth also appears to have sprouted wings and flown away when we observe how greed can destroy a person’s well-being. Only by keeping wealth in proper perspective and never focusing our lives solely on gaining or keeping wealth that we can find our lives invested in the things that matter most – in the things that endure.
You will find additional Biblical thinking on this concept at Proverbs 11:28; 28:22,25.
Application Idea – An extraordinary insight into how pursuit of money affects all socio-economic classes is found the song Sweetest Girl – (Dollar Bill) by Haitian born Wyclef Jean. Be warned that though the singers make a prophetic critique of greed and the societal impact of the quest for a dollar, references are made to strippers and prostitution. The song fully describes the depths to which people will go for financial security and will connect to folk who listen to pop radio.
3. Make Every Buck Honestly (Prov. 13:11; 16:11)
This first Proverb teaches that the dishonest gain of wealth will dwindle quickly. While the NIV translates it as “dishonest money,” the NRSF offers “wealth hastily gained” as a variant translation on the Hebrew word that means “from vanity.” So no matter what translation you may use for teaching, the idea that wealth should be gained by doing good honest work remains true. Biblical wisdom instructs people to make money honestly because, as Proverbs 16.11 will suggest, God blesses honest work and fair trade, and God condemns dishonest trade and quick, sloppy work.
Application Ideas –
Ask your learners to examine their own work ethics. Do they give their employers “all 8” during the work day? Do they cut corners on occasion or with regularity? If they are business owners, do they always make sure to treat their employees and customers to the highest standards?
Another idea – ask your learners who use computers for work to measure the amount of time they spend surfing the net while on company time? Is it ever ok to justify this behavior with the idea that “just a little is ok” or “all the other employees do it even more than I do?”
4. Grow in Generosity (Prov. 11:24-26)
This proverb demonstrates yet one more of the counter-intuitive principles of God’s way of living life. It says that the more generous we are, the more we are enriched, and, conversely, the more we hoard, the more we are cursed. It is antithetical to trusting in God’s provision when we hoard up for the future to the disadvantage of those around us.
You see this all the time at those “all you can eat” buffets. You go there for lunch knowing that dinner is already planned for, yet you eat the lunch buffet as if there were no guarantee of dinner! We behave the same way in our ethics, as if there is a limited amount of good “stuff” in life, so we hoard that good stuff with the intent of keeping others from drawing down on the “fund of goodness.” But reality is that God’s goodness and abundance are never depleted. Christians are most god-like when they trust this reality and give generously to others.
The bottom line is that generosity enriches the giver and forges and unselfish attitude. This is not a version of the “gospel of prosperity” but the reality is that the one who gives away will provide a blessing to the giver that may or may not be financial prosperity. However, one can be assured it will be a blessing of God’s abundance.
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